The act of reframing the menstrual cycle–as a source of deep awareness and even, power–is hardly news, and yet, it seems that way to most of us.
Liz Kissling sent me this link to a 2002 essay written by Gina Cloud. Here is a classic passionate call for a new (or very old, perhaps) way of responding to menstruation. While I bristle at the essentialism at the root of this reframing, I certainly appreciate any effort to reclaim the menstrural cycle and render it as more than a nasty nuisance that depends on consumerism to make it go away. Cloud renames the menstrual cycle, the “sacred cycle” and PMS as “powerful monthly insight.” For her, the week before a menstruator’s period is a time to “get clear” and unblock what she calls the “repression of expression” most women are socialized to practice every day.
Cloud numbers among a steady stream of women–health educators, midwives, at least one physician, and lay women dedicated to empowering women through resisting more conventional attitudes about menstruation. They have written books, led workshops and generally promoted the idea that menstruation can and should be seen as a not a curse, but a gift.
In 1978 Jeannine Parvati published her now classic Hygieia: A Woman’s Herbal. The tone of the book is vintage late 70s, hippie discourse infused with cultural feminist valorization of all-things- feminine. In her chapter On the Rag & Other Menstrual Rituals, Parvati cites “the images, our body fantasies, our cultural myths and poor health” as barriers to the “ecstatic renewal” [emphasis in original] of menstruation and said that “[b]leeding is part of being sexual,” connecting menstruation to female sexuality. She also included a hand-lettered pattern for homemade reusable cloth menstrual pads. 1978!!!! Parvati’s book was a breakthrough.
Tamara Slayton beautifully illustrated Hygieia and herself, embarked on her own menstrual health work around the same time. Inspired by an unplanned teen pregnancy that she was forced to hide, Slayton connected the “shaming of the fruit of the womb” (her words) with the pressing need for positive menstrual education for girls. In 1989 Slayton published Reclaiming the Menstrual Matrix, a Workbook for Evolving Feminine Wisdom. Here, she advances the idea of menstrual consciousness as a MATRIX (long before that term was applied to feminist thinking by sociologist Patricia Hill Collins, or the blockbuster sci-i action film trilogy by the same name) Here’s Slayton’s take:
With menarche you meet your wisdom, and with your monthly bleeding you practice your wisdom, and then at menopause you become the wisdom.
More on the radar is Dr. Christiane Northrup, author of the bestselling Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom
On her website she writes:
The menstrual cycle is the most basic, earthy cycle we have. Our blood is our connection to the archetypal feminine. The macrocosmic cycles of nature, the waxing and waning, the ebb and flow of the tides and the changes of the seasons, are reflected on a smaller scale in the menstrual cycle of the individual female body.
Some folks bristle at this kind of reframing. It is not for everyone. But it can and does resonate for some. The idea of tuning into the menstrual cycle, even to celebrate it with a ritual bath, journaling, or a few hours in the company of other women in a ne0-Red Tent, is a compelling idea.
What if we channeled our “tidy it up” or ‘turn it off” energies into seeing our cycles as creative, restorative and HONEST moments in our lives?
Really, what if?
What then?
The world would be a better place, Chris. The exciting thing for me is that there are so many channels opening that reframe the menstrual cycle as having purpose and meaning in women’s lives. Women can walk down whichever path resonates for them. Or discover and claim their own. Artistic creativity, athletic strength and endurance, spiritual connectedness, health and well-being, ecological awareness, sexuality, holistic living, authenticity, etc. Or reject them all. This blog, by noting and commenting on these various approaches, demonstrates that “tidy it up” and “turn it off” are not the only frames out there for experiencing or discussing menstruation. I’m going to use those useful phrases. Thanks!
It’s crazy how foreign this seems to most of us in our crazy lives. Thanks, Chris, for posting and making sure we think about this.
Wow, these are themes I was given by my mother and best friends mother when I reached menarche. This post deepens my gratitude to them for giving me a more positive and powerful framework for integrating it into who I was, even though I’ve walked away from a lot of it over the years. My best friend and I reached this age within weeks of each and our mothers arranged a ceremony for us filled with adult women sharing what menstruation and womanhood meant to them. I some times forget how rare that approach is.
I am just concerned about the confusion of people with uteruses with a “connection to the archetypal feminine.”
For me it is a grounding, profound experience. And I do relate it to how I experience my own womanhood. But not all people who menstruate are women. and even more are not “feminine”. Trying to reclaim femininity does not make your definition “archetypal”. In fact bleeding didn’t happen nearly as often in many parts of history as they do now. Many women were either pregnant or breast-feeding, so they rarely menstruated.
But to only accept those who menstruate as women, is exclusionary to women who do not menstruate (and some NEVER have). It is also damaging to those men who do menstruate, by denying their identities and basically saying “you are not a real man”.
It’s always interesting to think about how biology/physiology itself has changed over time. Good points, nakedthoughts. Chris Bobel had another blog entry at Re:Cycling (last week, I think?) called “Definitions That Fall Short” and she highlights some of the same points you’re making. It’s always so hard when we get to the definitions of what womanhood really is and how central menstruation is in “women’s” lives….